Anonymous
I hate to ask as anon but I fear I'm still too shy to come out of the...well I guess there's no sub closet. Maybe we have a toy box... Anyway, miss Pepper, I'm in a fairly new D/s relationship, and while my Sir has never been in one before, he's picking things up astoundingly fast. I know it would please him if I could get him all the way in my mouth, but I have a horrible gag reflex. Any suggestions or tips?
 

My Dear Anon,

No worries on coming out of the toybox.  It can take time, and should be a decision that you think about whether or not you want to do.  I don’t mind getting Anon asks, as my hate mail has been very few and far between, and most of the messages I get that are Anon have been very genuine questions.  I can appreciate the desire to be faceless as well :)

As for helping you with your gag reflex, that’s a really tough one!  I have a terrible gag reflex myself, and I’ve had to work hard to try and, uh, push it back so to speak.  But, if I was going to give tips, I guess this is the best I can do:

  1. Slow and steady wins the race - I’ve found that there’s nothing more appealing to a Dominant than a good hard face-fucking, but that’s really not going to help you kill that reflex. For me, movement is really a kicker.  I can’t deep-throat while being plowed, but if I can focus on what I’m doing and take him in slowly, then I can go pretty fucking far.  Don’t take the pace away from him, but suggest some sensual, slow teasing that will allow you to get comfortable.
  2. Practice makes perfect - If you have a good dildo, you can work on this sort of thing yourself, and it’s pretty fucking humiliating, so he might even like knowing that you do it.  I frankly cannot do this as the smell of silicone makes me gag on it’s own, so having it all the way down my throat would probably make me sick, but not everyone has this issue - I’m hoping you don’t!
  3. Take a deep breath - The idea with deep-throating is that (like with anal), if you clench up, it’s not going to work.  If you think of yourself “swallowing” him down, then it helps open up your throat and pull up your uvula.  If you sort of breathe him in and swallow, then you can push back your gag reflex before you have a chance to react.  The thing is, this takes concentration, so like I said above, if he’s pounding you?  Probably not going to have much luck.

I’m pretty sure that Mr. P would tell you that simple eagerness counts for a hell of a lot, so be eager, participate, and if you’re able to get it down then awesome, but if you’re not?  I’m pretty sure your Sir will be happy that you love his cock so much.

Good luck!!

All the way kisses,
Pepper 

1 month ago
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  1. playswithdolls said: Pepper’s right on the spot. Where skill fails, enthusiasm fills the gap. Being desiring makes you desirable, and I guarantee that enthusiastically craving your Dominant’s cock is going to make him fairly happy even if you have issues mastering this.
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